Understanding Cravings
Cravings are time-limited. Even intense urges typically peak and subside within 15-30 minutes. The goal isn't to eliminate cravings (impossible) but to ride them out without acting on them.
HALT Check — Cravings intensify when you're:
- Hungry — Basic needs neglected
- Angry — Unprocessed emotions
- Lonely — Isolation is dangerous
- Tired — Exhaustion weakens resolve
Address the underlying state, and the craving often eases.
Immediate Techniques
Urge Surfing
Observe the craving like a wave. It builds, peaks, and subsides. Don't fight it—notice it:
- Where do you feel it in your body?
- What does it feel like? (tight, hot, restless)
- Watch it change moment to moment
- Remind yourself: "This will pass. It always does."
The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding
When overwhelmed, anchor to the present:
- 5 things you can see
- 4 things you can touch
- 3 things you can hear
- 2 things you can smell
- 1 thing you can taste
This interrupts the craving spiral and brings you back to now.
Delay and Distract
- Set a timer for 15 minutes
- Do something incompatible with using (walk, shower, call someone)
- When the timer ends, reassess—the urge is usually weaker
Play the Tape Forward
Vividly imagine what happens if you use:
- The immediate aftermath (guilt, shame, hangover)
- The next day (consequences, hiding)
- The long-term (relationships, health, goals)
- Then imagine waking up tomorrow having NOT used
Call Someone
Connection is the opposite of addiction. Reach out to:
- Sponsor or recovery friend
- Family member who supports your recovery
- Crisis line if no one else is available
- Anyone—even casual conversation breaks the isolation
Trigger Management
Know Your Triggers
External triggers:
- People (old using friends, dealers)
- Places (bars, neighborhoods, specific homes)
- Things (paraphernalia, certain music, smells)
- Times (Friday nights, payday, anniversaries)
Internal triggers:
- Emotions (boredom, anxiety, celebration, grief)
- Physical states (pain, insomnia, hunger)
- Thoughts ("just one won't hurt", "I deserve this")
AVOID When Possible
Early recovery: stay away from triggers you can avoid. This isn't weakness—it's strategy. You can build exposure tolerance later.
Reframe When Unavoidable
- "This feeling is uncomfortable but not dangerous"
- "I've gotten through this before"
- "This is my brain lying to me"
- "One day at a time—just get through today"
Harm Reduction
If abstinence isn't the current goal, reducing harm is still progress:
General:
- Never use alone (fentanyl contamination makes this deadly)
- Test your supply (fentanyl strips save lives)
- Know your tolerance has dropped if you've had any break
- Have naloxone accessible
Alcohol:
- Alternate with water
- Eat before/while drinking
- Set a limit before you start
- Avoid mixing substances
Stimulants:
- Stay hydrated
- Take breaks, don't binge
- Avoid injecting (highest risk)
- Watch for overheating
This isn't endorsement. It's acknowledging that people use, and dead people can't recover. Any step toward safety is worthwhile.
Building Resilience
Long-term recovery isn't about white-knuckling through cravings forever. It's about building a life where you don't need to escape.
Replace the ritual:
- Addiction serves a function (numbing, excitement, connection)
- Find healthy alternatives that serve the same need
- Evening drink → evening tea ritual, evening walk, evening call with friend
Build structure:
- Unstructured time is dangerous
- Regular sleep schedule
- Planned activities
- Work or volunteer commitments
Process underlying issues:
- Trauma, grief, mental health conditions often underlie addiction
- Therapy helps address root causes
- Recovery from addiction alone often isn't enough
Find your people:
- Recovery community (meetings, sober friends)
- People who support your recovery
- Distance from people who don't
Celebrate progress:
- Milestones matter (1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 1 year)
- Recovery is hard—acknowledge your effort
- Progress isn't linear—setbacks don't erase wins